Books by Dr Soph
The Sunday Times bestseller
A Manual For Being Human
Understand yourself. Understand your patterns. Move forward.
Named one of the top 10 “trusted sources of health information” — NHS Health Education for England and The Reading Agency
Do you feel anxious, struggle with low self-esteem, or keep repeating the same relationship patterns? Or maybe you're navigating a breakup, a new chapter, or just wanting to understand who you really are? A Manual for Being Human is the book you need.
Packed full of psychological insight, practical tools, reflective questions, and real-life examples, Dr Soph answers the three questions every therapy client asks: How did I get here? What's keeping me here? How do I move forward?
This book gives you the tools to:
- Recognise how your childhood shaped who you are – and break the patterns that keep repeating
- Understand your relationship patterns and attachment style – and why you keep choosing the same type of person or conflict
- Identify the coping strategies making you feel worse – and replace them with ones that actually work
- See how your brain tricks you into catastrophising – and learn to perceive reality more clearly
- Understand that some of your struggle comes from the world around you, not just inside your head
- Learn science-backed techniques you can use today – grounding, breathing, mindfulness, journaling, self-compassion
This is foundational psychology, made accessible and warm. A toolkit for understanding yourself – whether you're in therapy, considering it, or simply curious about who you are and why.
What people are saying
“Clear, accessible wise advice for modern minds.”
“A Manual for Being Human is the motherlode, enlightening on why you might feel and behave how you do.”
“Absolutely brilliant. A gold mine of coping skills to get us through life. I will be keeping copies in my therapy room and my own home. Do not skip this one.”
The latest book
(Un)Stuck
5 Steps to break bad habits and get out of your own way.
Do you feel stuck in a rut, living your life on repeat? Maybe you make yearly resolutions with gusto, only to slip back into old habits a few weeks later. Or perhaps you're sabotaging your own chances at happiness by staying in a job that drains you, dating people who can't give you what you need, or avoiding the very opportunities that could change your life?
If the answer is yes, (Un)Stuck is the book you need.
Based on thousands of hours of clinical work with people who felt stuck, Dr Soph identifies the five hidden reasons you can't move forward—and gives you the science-backed tools to finally break free.
This book shows you how to:
- Break bad habits and build better ones – understand how habits form, why willpower alone isn't enough, and how to set up your environment so success becomes automatic
- Stop falling into thinking traps – discover the mental shortcuts and biases that trick you into making decisions that keep you stuck
- Recognise and overcome self-sabotage – understand why you undermine your own goals and how to face the fears that drive this behaviour
- Navigate the hidden games we play – identify the unconscious patterns and drama that sabotage relationships, careers, and your sense of self
- Break free from family patterns – understand how the beliefs and behaviours passed down through generations keep you repeating cycles, and how to finally choose something different
Packed with real-life examples, practical exercises, and what Dr Soph calls "unsticking points"—key insights you can return to whenever you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns—this is not a quick fix. It's a roadmap to taking genuine control of your life.
For anyone who wants to stop living on autopilot and start living a life that's true to them.
What people are saying
“Put your current book down and start reading this. Dr Soph delivers with her deep knowledge and disarming approach. A great book we could all learn from.”
“This book will set you free to live a more intentional and fulfilling life.”
“(Un)Stuck is a wonderfully crafted, highly accessible book for anyone who feels lost or trapped in a cycle they're struggling to break free from.”